Ill bet the authorities will want to shut this down! Well they know who I am and there is always the legal route. Now just to make things clear this is not necessarly a reflection of things in George Abbot School today as the story goes back to 2008. "Now I might normally walk away from a fight to keep the peace but I won't be bullied or ignored like that again!" It's amazing what you can do with the internet, very little money and a few covert recordings. You see you can learn from your childhood experiences or you can be taught by them. There is a big difference!

Might I suggest if your in a meeting with people who give you bad vibes get the little app for your mobile phone. Covertly record the meetings telling nobody, no even your partner because if it all goes pear shape you might one day need to prove a few things. If your partner knows all your secrets and if they see it as an easy option they might well turn on you. Few people even those you love who you would expect to stand by you would chose work over an easy life. Its that simple. Always be polite, keep your cool then register a website with a catchy name like talkaboutstressed.com. Put it all on your site and send a link to anybody who matters asking for an opinion from anybody in authority. Use words like 'reasonable care and skill' and 'Might you not agree that...' or 'Do you not agree that most reasonable people would...' Avoid direct critism of others. ask things like 'Would I be wrong in suggesting that...' or 'I might not be the brightest light on the tree but have I got it all wrong that...' The words not agree rather than agree on its own works better and kind of forces an evaluation in the people you talk to. Try 'I might be wrong but based on the evidence in front of me would you not agree that...' Be prepaired to be wrong sometimes you are, its no big deal if your heart is in the right place and be prepaired to say sorry it seems I got that wrong. It might be alien or against policy but you can undo so much damage with a simple apology. Most people you meet especally anybody with a reputation to protect will tell a pack of lies or pass the buck to get out of making an apology. Thats life and just the way things are. Remember if it sounds like a speech the chances are its pre rehearsed and means nothing.

If it ever gets to divorce or court the solicitors are by my experience intrested in a profit, thats what they are in business for. Its as good as automated side a puts their case foward, side b counters, few tell the truth and some solicitors see pound signs and drag thing out for as long as they can. In my case I just waited for the counter that included what was as good as a ra*e allegation. By this time I had put a website together. I had not published it but it included my partners confession, with dates etc and a comformation I had never hurt her or put a foot wrong. I published the site and sent a link to everyone. It was like game over in one stroke. I want custody of our children, the house and you to pay my costs or we can go and do the court thing. The affair partner was a bit put out as he thought he had won a free house.

I could tie myself up in knots giving you my background but for that you would really need to visit http://www.whykidscry.com and read the book 'Life After Child Abuse.' Quote from my sons special needs teacher, my first impression of the woman when he started at George Abbot School. "Oh shit he's only level 2 we'll loose him next year" as she read over the school file from junior school where he was described as 'eager to please.' It was not so much what she said but the expression that went with it. This lady later described by me as looking like a child having a tantrum and throwing toys. Not to mention the fact she had the same surname as one of my childhood abusers. Talk about bad vibes! Mum pretended not to notice but then I was always on my own with the kids as soon as they could think for themselves and learnt to answer back. Quote from a year head a few weeks later after a few problems. "We think this might not be the correct school for your son." You see sometimes its dad (or mum) against the world and without the right support its pretty rare they win! If you don't agree to social workers we are going to exclude your son and phoning his scout leader for advice is not our job! (I made this request of the school 5 times over the next 2 months, no somebody else will do that at each reply.) I was later told by a shrink "this is what schools do when they have given up on a child." Then out of the blue during another school meeting about nothing, "We might have to exclude your son for the benifit of the other children." WTF he was about the smallest child in the school had never been the focus of or in any trouble before and now they are threatening to exclude him? Benifit of the other children? I got it into my head it was all about school league tables and getting rid of a child they did not want.

OK he is a little behind and needs bit of help you getting funding for, funding you use for a whole class assistant, not a my son assistant, your not even taking the time to set him any homework, what are you doing with all this money and extra time? Spending it on somebody elses child? Your giving him licence to be late for class, putting stupid flouracent get out of jail cards on his school book advertising he has a problem, a problem you created and made worse with these cards giving him licence to be 15 minutes late for each class. And now your wondering why he with all this free time is playing up? I mean how might you create a situation wherby you could guaratee a child would misbeave or have problems? Might I suggest, leave him or her to their own devices and just wait and see what happens. OK I have and knew I had trust issues when it comes to school staff. Of course they don't listen to word I am saying to them that they are doing it all wrong. I felt manipulated, groomed and ignored like that when I was a 14 year old child at the hands of a paedophile in boarding school. Talk about bad vibes. And then there was mum who would run from anything that involves work, did not really care for the children and had just started an affair making it so obvious my younger son has told me like I had not worked it out.

within 2 months of starting the school the social workers who just like the school don't listen to a word I'm saying tell me CAMHS who have not even met anyone are suggesting my son should be in care! WTF So much for working with parents and feeder schools. Typical sales pitch that is full of hot air and fake smiles. I found myself in tears in the prior school in front of their head asking for help. Scout leader after waiting 2 months for a phone call. "Tell them I want contact with anybody concerned with your son before somebody makes a big mistake." The shrink I felt forced to take my son to see. (yes we had one of them in the family) "They have got the wrong idea and run with it." Well this was seemingly easier than making a phone call for the child. Later a quote from the school head 'I'm not sure quiet what I would be apologising for.' Anyone who answers a simple question with a clearly rehersed speech changing the subject is normally hiding something or up to no good and this guy was really good with a speech. Did I see red! but no I had to keep my cool, a straight face and wait as I had a younger son to go through this school yet and what good would confronting this head and fighting back do? my son was only 1 of 2000 and if I became the aggressor in a meeting it would not do my kids any good. I really wanted to fly off the handle but no if I do I'll be playing into their hands. I thought I have to keep my cool or Ill be seen as in the wrong flying off the handle with what I see as total arragant and dismissive know it all incompentance. Blow dealing with my wife and her affair I thought, dealing with this is far more important. You see I was a bit thick there and did not realise the affair was the problem and the school were predominantly trying to deal with my wife the mother. They clearly saw a problem with my wife to the point they wrote 'Mother seems disinterested' in the teachers notes file. You see the child was playing the fool for some attention and he once he realised it worked he was going to say anything to stop them from telling dad anything. Just listen to the 3rd recording down the page, he had a good teacher, mum, one story after another. I mean anybody who knew her just took about anything she said with a generous pinch of salt.

Ever heard a 38 year old man who knows his wife is playing away from home end his marriage suffering a nervous breakdown in a state school reliving memories of his own childhood sexual abuse. This just trying to get anybody in authority to make a phone call to his only support and somebody who knew what they were doing when it came to his special needs child. Press the play button below, Of course they'll want to keep that hidden from view. Then you could play the apology below that, it came from the next school head a few years later. Seemingly an honest lady without the fake smiles who answered questions directly without changing the subject or giving a worthless speech. Somewhat different from the prior head "I'm not quiet sure what I would be apologising for" Autistic they called the child. Or to be more accurate once the social workers closed their case they suggested. 'Your son might warrant a diagnois as being on the autistic spectrum.' Not we made a pigs ear of that and got tunnel vision refusing to listen to the childs father or use any common sense. They did not even contact the feeder school, something mentioned in the pre school speech that would happen in the event of any issues with new students, I did! Play the 3rd recording below and make up your own mind.

It turns out the school put it to my then wife I was abusing the children and to quote from the teachers notes file 'Mother would neither confirm or deny dad gets angry and hits the child.'

Some people suggest kids should be seen and not heard. I'm not one of them and see that policy as abuse! Now I love a kid who thinks for himself, holds it together, walks away from trouble whenever possible but stands up to a bully, questions authority if they think it necessary and does it without breaking a sweat. This whilst covertly recording everything so they can take the recording to somebody who might be able to help them. I think my son is as bright as a button and I had nothing to do with that recording until he handed me a memory stick with an audio file on it. It turns out he and his aunt had arranged this meeting with mum as mum refused to face the children for months. She got remarried a fortnight after the divorce without even telling our children. You never know you might learn something. especally if your a teacher in a school, you see sometimes its the father who is looking after the children of the family even if he works full time. The mother well sometimes she is just there for the paycheck and an easy life. Sometimes if she actually has to work and do something she will simply move on, maybe like my ex. with no warning and a text message. Talk about a worm.

Many people suggested I should take my son out of the school. Yeh like I'm going to run away from a false child abuse allegation. I don't think so I said. I put taking my son out of the school to the head after the meeting recorded below, now that was a bad idea it was not the wrong school for my son after all. Funny that now he realises I'm a bit of a nutter and there is a good chance the meeting is being recorded. Talk about an about turn. The child never missed a day of school apart from the day with the imaginary nits. I told the lady in the office the next time they kicked him out with nits if I didn't find any I would take my son to see the doctor. They never did that again.

You see this is where problems really started, I'd call it pretty serious but kids growing up and testing the boundaries. Now if you put a child in a situation with no boundaries would it not be a surprise if they started playing up? Think about it your a year head, or head of a school how might you expect an 11 year old child to behave if left to his or her own devices with a great deal of direction from other 11 year old children? (a child described as eager to please in his last school report from junior school.) Nobody ever told me until months later what my son had been led into doing until I demanded a copy of the school file and teachers log. (they did not like that!) I wont suggest this file was altered before I got it. You see some kids can learn from a book, a video or instruction. Others learn by experiment waiting for consequences like a raised voice, a hard eye or the wag of a finger. Any muppet can teach a child who learns from a book or a video.

2 entries in the lads teachers notes stood out as looking out of place.

Now I'm not suggesting for one minute this file was altered after the fact or additional entries were made (it was probably just a typo?) just ask yourself why there is a month between the date of the entry and the action for this urgent issue? If it was a simple typo how could something that happened after school be dealt with at 8.45 on the same day? And why does the same entry appear to be entered twice? Then you might understand why after their 3rd refusal to make a simple phonecall for my son I had real bad vibes and was covertly recording meetings in this school. Vibes, natures way of warning you something you can't see is obviously wrong!
I'll tell you some breeds of dog are really good at sensing bad vibes and my parents used to breed and show dogs.

The nurvous breakdown, well I knew this would end my marriage but with no support and the finger being pointed at me for child abuse and talk of taking my son into care what else could I do? Taking advice from my sons shrink I employed. That was to open up and tell the school everything I did this, put in on the internet, sent a link to the world and his wife, the council and asked the council for an opinion. I Put it on a dvd and took it to the prior school head asking for help. She was great, 48 hours later they had the emergency meeting with the prior school teacher, scout leader and a number of others. If I have to pick a fight with someone I said, I'm going for the guy at the top of the tree and I'm going to get as many people as possile involved.(safety in numbers) I never spoke to the social worker again. She said nothing in this meeting, the social worker. She looked like she was bricking it and told to keep quiet. The next day a simple letter, no apology just that they had closed their case. About 10 days later CAMHS had closed their case too.

Mum bolted with a text message not to be seen or heard from in months. It must have been so embarrassing for her! Well it turns out she knew what the problems were all about and kept it to herself. No wonder I got bad vibes. You might say no wonder I gave bad vibes as I had no idea what the problems were all about. Once things became clear my kids and I never had another problem in school again. I will never forget this year head came over to me, gave me a hug and told me "Its a good job you spoke up when you did." The next day I was in hospital. The nurse would not have it that I had not taken something (like drugs) to get my blood pressure where it was. We had a good argumnt about it. She told me I should not be standing and must have taken something. (only coffee, straight up it helps me think and was I doing some thinking!) You might listen to the 3rd recording below where the child asks mum what she said when it was put to her I was abusing him and his brother. Like the kiddy shrink said, "Wrong idea and run with it." 30+ kids in a class all with their own different issues what else might you expect? No wonder this year head gave me a hug and told me it was a good job I spoke up when I did. They must have thought I was a right bastard prior to this meeting.

The above meeting left me in hospital with a nervous breakdown. It turns out while I was in hospital my wife went on holiday with her affair partner dumping our kids on her sister calling it training for work. Then the text message, (sorry I'm not coming back, I'm with somebody else now.)

She bolted like the rat she is! and I was left to (with a lot of help) to bring up our children on my own working full time.

In the meantime I've decided to pick a fight with the social workers demanding an apology for their not following up on my mothers 3 written complaints about 'Berrow Wood school' the boarding school / borstal I was placed in as a child. Funny that as you might expect they had seemingly never filed the letters and had no record of the complaints. Well it turns out my mum had kept the copies for getting on for 30 years so I handed a set over. I then demanded to see My sons social care file. They tried to refuse calling it personal to my son and not for dads eyes. By this time I'm really kicking up a stink.

I'm going to see that file, did they really think I was abusing my son? or were they trying to push him out of the school? Well after I got an MP involved and my son signed a disclamer I got to see the file. I wont suggest it was altered before I saw it. they would not do anything like that would they? Nothing really odd in it apart from a pretty normal child growing up and the fact it was missing a letter I gave the social worker with my sons scout leaders phone number on it and a contradiction ie no record of the school asking the social worker to make the same call as written twice in the childs school file. It always struck me as odd they refused me a copy of the file and OK I may be running away with ideas but I wonder what the meta data would reveal if the file came in digital format?

On the bright side Barry Desmond Newon Hasting from Margate (the housemaster who sexually abused me back in the 80's in Berrow Wood School died in jail 2 years later. You see right in the middle of this I was giving evidence in court about this guy too. (I ask you, do you have any idea the stress I was under?) Well like they say "What don't kill you makes you stronger." Mr Morris the head of 'Berrow Wood School' died I'm told a fortnight after he came out of prison for his crimes against the children. No reports on how he died but I like to think a prior student caught up with him. You've never met such a nasty man when it comes to kids, strangling them with a choak hold until they pass out. A few kids lost teeth to his fist. Back to mum, she lost custody of the kids and the family home and had to pay my costs too thanks in part to my covert recording of her confession where she made it clear I never hurt her. I kept his recording safe you know just in case. Then came the divorce and a bunch of mums fictional stories. I mean she went for broke, not just ra*e but a*al ra*e for between 2 and 3 years as well as assult. A story taken straight out of my childhood. You can hear how she does it (makes up stories and play the victim) in the recording above with our son in 2009. He was 12 years old at the time and could think for himself not 5. So I just casually posted the whole lot on a website, told as many people as possible and gave a link to my solicitor and just about everyone in the family. Quote from her father, "I don't expect you did." You see the one lesson I did take from my childhood is to make covert recordings of meetings with people who give you bad vibes or if you ever have the need to for example take a faulty product back to a shop. Never be confrontational, act thick and just see what happens. You'll be surprised what some people will give away if they think you are thick. (trust your vibes! they are natures way of warning you about trouble that is not obvious.) All I ever have to do now is hand out a business card, not that I've ever has had to do it. I retired aged 50 having paid off the mortgage with money left to me by my now ex wifes stepmother. My kids and I have not looked back both gainfully employed since as good as the day they left college, now into their late 20's and doing well. You see I taught them its better to study, watch a few youtube videos, try and fail than to just give up at the first hurdle or some idiot who tells you that you can't do something. Its a better lesson to get something wrong (well all the time it only hurts you) than it is to look for reasons not to even try. This undoing years of damage done to my eldest teaching him the benifits of being a victim as well as what he can't do in school. I described my son as 3 years behind to the head of George Abbot School when he started college. Now maybe replay the apology above and you might understand the termonology used by the lads scout leader about staff at his school. 'Negitive attention and ideas that had been put to him. (think about it, add that to his last school report where he was described as 'eager to please.') A far cry from the sales pitch about positive reinforcement the then school head told parents about in his school speech. (rule of thumb never trust anyone who sounds like a salesman) The lads scout leader a very bright and very helpful man. It a shame they did not phone him when I asked them to. Workload apparently. At least the next head took ownership of the problem telling me in what seemed to be a real apology and I quote "There is no excuse." A ten minute phonecall for a special needs child the school were being paid a lot of extra money to support! And they (seemingly the authorities) block my adverts because they might offend someone! They are not offencive, their educational.

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